The Ethical Edge
The Art of Integrity
YOUR FUTURE IS COMING TO YOU
“What is really momentous and all important with us is the present,
by which the future is shaped and colored.”
John Greenleaf Whittier
In 2011 I attended my first Ethical Edge breakfast program and experienced a life changing shift in my experience of myself. Leading up to this moment, I had for months been trying to redefine my next step, asking myself the silent, unsettling questions: Am I doing too much; am I not doing enough? Clearly, I needed to see life differently while finding myself questioning my parenting abilities as a single mom of three sons, feeling completely overwhelmed.
During the breakfast program Russ Williams, a man I had yet to meet said, “You don’t need to be in a hurry to find the future that is already coming to you.” At that very moment my perspective began to change and my spirit was immediately calmed. I tucked away what I had heard, not realizing that it was resonating in my soul and I would begin to change.
Several months later I attended a meeting of Orange County Executive Women. In between the time of attending the Ethical Edge breakfast and this EW meeting, I had been doing a great deal of writing…still searching for answers to an unclear question of what to do next in my life. I don’t even know why I thought I needed to do anything. After all, I had an amazing life, loving my job as a CFO/CAO of a regional CPA firm, Squar Milner. I was serving on multiple boards, leading a small group for my church and most importantly, parenting three amazing sons. I came to a realization: I didn’t need to do anything more. I simply needed to enjoy the things I was choosing to do.
During the EW meeting, we were asked to think about an individual who recently had a profound impact on our life. The first person who came to my mind was Russell Williams. After the EE breakfast, I began to look at how I had been living my life and had a rapid flashback, realizing my life had always been very full and extremely busy. I didn’t know how to say NO, nor did I have any idea how to ask for help. I was always available to somebody or some project…hence…my constant exhaustion. While I lived by the creed: Life is a Journey and Your destiny is up to You, I failed to incorporate the importance of enjoying and experiencing the journey. But how could I enjoy the ride, when I was always busy, constantly in a rush?
Today, I am no longer in a frantic search for what to do next, because I am already doing it! Not only am I living by the creed, “Life is a Journey and your destiny is up to you,” I am now enjoying the journey!
Thank you, Russ, for reminding me there is no need to hurry, nor seek a future that is already coming my way.
Scharrell Jackson can be reached at SJackson@Squarmilner.com