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Ethical Edge

By Russell Williams

Ethical Edge

AND’S vs. OR’S

The Ethical Edge
The Art Of Integrity
AND’S vs. OR’S

MARY BELDEN-McGRATH
Chief Relationship Officer, DrivenforLife

“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”
Buddhist Proverb

It was 2008.  I was at a crossroads in my life.  Working for an amazing leadership training organization in Las Vegas, I was doing what I loved and making a difference in the lives of people…yet something was off.  There were many changes happening within the organization and in my personal life.  In the organization I was one of their top sales people as well as a Master Trainer of Experiential Learning for their elite class. Up until that time, the policy was a person could not train and sell. It had to be one or the other.  I’ve always been one who challenges the status quo, does things that others say “can’t be done” and loves proving that the ideas and dreams inside me will work with focused action, drive and determination.  I refused to give one up because I was passionate and successful at both.

The recession hit, sales went down and classes were cancelled.  My stability and identity were rocked because as a top sales person I was now asked to lead a team and share my book of business while with classes being cancelled, I could no longer train.  At this very same time, my husband and I were given the opportunity to move to Southern California.

Jason Lindstrom was the President of the leadership training organization. He had become a mighty mentor and trusted confidant in my life.  He began challenging me to be my best, live my dream and create “and’s” instead of “or’s with my life. So many times individuals think they have to do this “or” that, rather than discover the place of alignment of doing this “AND” that.

At a pivotal meeting with Jason, he asked, “If you could do anything and nothing was impossible, what would you do?”  Then he said, “Let’s figure out how to make your best life happen.  If that means you work with us, somewhere else, or start your own company, I want you to be successful.  I want you to do what you’re passionate about!”  I was ready to receive Jason’s counsel.

Jason gave me the gift of “what’s possible” and supported me.  My husband and I moved to Southern California in 2009, started our own company in 2010, and continued being a consultant for Jason’s organization until 2011.  As an incredible mentor, Jason sparked ideas in me and then supported and encouraged me to dream big AND pursue those dreams.

My favorite quote is, “When the student is ready, the teacher appears”.  When we are ready, the right teacher does appear.  It could be in the form of a “Jason Lindstrom”, a book, a quote, or a word of encouragement.  It is up to us to take action and start living the “and’s” instead of “or’s”.

Mary Belden-McGrath can be contacted at mary@drivenforlife.com

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